Please help me, My heart is hurting....No this isnt a 'break up' either....?
This might be alot...but I REALLY appreciate it if you read nad answer 4th Grade So i moved to Texas 5 years ago, and i was in the 4th grad, i met this boy and i became best friends with him. all the girls hated me, and the guys called me ugly and i was tease because i talked proper, and some of the kids felt as if i "wanted to be white" because of my California(from CA) grammar (laughing at that) anyway, he was like my only friend. he had a crush on me but i didnt like him like that. I guess cus i wasnt even happy with myself. then he told me, that towards the end of the year he moves to go with his Dad, and a different school out there in El Paso(Texas) and he said that would happen EVERY year. So i believed it. 5th Grade So in fifth grade he came back, and as always i knew he would leave towards the end of the school year. then we saw each other again, and we were friends. He used to draw me pictures of puppies, because i guess he still had a crush on me. but then later in the year i think he kinda gave up on the crush but we were still really close 5th Grade yeah...i had to repeat the fifth grade (which doesnt matter cus i started school early anyway) but anyway i changed schools, so i was bummed i didnt get to see him anymore, then in the 2nd week of school, HE JOINED MY CLASS. I was soo excited, and so was he and everyone at that school was shocked we knew each other. he then promised me, we would be together (as friends) until college or longer. i believed him and sealed that promise with my heart. i gave him his favorite toy a finger skate boared (remember elementary school) as a gift. then he left agan later that school year. 6th grade. they divided our classes into 'Teams' so i barley saw him, but we still hung out and were close. 7th grade. Now we were in Jr. High... he was older and so was I. I realized, i REALLY REALLY did like this boy the whole time. like alot. and I wasnt even sure he went to my Jr. High until he ran behind me and hugged me out of surprised! i was soo excited to see him! he always waved to me and talked to me when he got a chance, every time my lunch began, his ended. and he would say by i guess. but i barley saw him in Jr. high because the classes were so divided and the bell schedules were different. WELL.... one day, i was outside at lunch waiting for him to come by and talk to me,and he wasnt there... soo i was like "ok maybe he is absent" next day, i waited...."not there" a week went by and he wasnt there. I didnt know what to expect or think...this was WAYYY too early for him to leave and move with his Dad. and he didnt tell me "bye" sooo i decided to ask a few members of his Class where he was? and they said..."HE MOVED" i was like ???!?!?@#?$%?^?&*? ok?? why the sudden change, soo i went through a tough 7th grade year. but i had other friends....and they had drama etc... stuff i cant get into right now. But anyway..it was just too sudden for me. 8th grade(my last completed grade level) I was excited that year, i knew i would go to high school next year, and i knew id see "my friend" agan, well....he wasnt there this time. it hurt. I never let him go or gave up on him though. i looked on myspace and facebook ...couldnt come in contact with my BFF. so man.....i just felt like "man, i guess im never gonna see him agan, i gottaa stop wearing myself out on this" and i did. This Summer. Sooo im sittin on Facebook next thing you know, i get a friend request. "OH MY GOODNESS??!!!" and i started cryin out of joy yup. it was him. He added me, it had been nearly 3 years since i seen him (2008) there he was my real, first best friend, in Texas. He added, me, and thats all he did... he didnt even message me? so i messeged him you know i was like "HEY!! omg So&So! i missed you soooo much etc etc etc ect blah blah blah, heres my number give me yours" soo he responds talkin to me, like a "wannabe gangsta" i was really like "WTF" i didnt say that...i was jsut like, yeah!! Can i call you. he told me i couldnt cus he was helpin his uncle. .......... i tried callin him later, he didnt answer. Now his phone is off (out of service). I added him on my myspace. he had me on his top. then moved me lower, then took me OFF. then put me back. Then took me off, AND ITS STILL LIKE THAT? im like WTFFFF?? then he sends me a message sayin "Wait... wut skool we used 2 go 2 2qetha again?" i listed them all, with a "you dont remember" at the end. and he never responded. ive been trying to get "over" this but its bothering me and i need ed to get this off my chest. i wont cry over no boy. but i do love him. but iarrogantder what happen to my friend. he is arrrogant, now...and he has the trash of our Jr. High on his top in MY pla urgh that stupid spell check messed up my last part... the last part is, he is acting arrogant, and like a 'tool' and has the school Trash(promiscuous girls, from or old Jr. high) on his top, in MY place. im just freakin out...
Adolescent - 8 Answers
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1 :
Well, people change. You can't expect someone to remain the same person forever you know.
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I know exactly how you feel. When i was in 6th grade my best guy friend liked me, but i just didn't like him like that. All of his daily phone calls stopped and he soon stopped talking to me all together. I'm not really sure why, i suppose he was angry at me for not liking him back. Over my middle school years he completely left me in the dirt and made new friends. It was SO SO SO hard for me to understand. All said and done i finally fell for him a year later and it was too late. I guess what I'm trying to say is people change and sometimes It's not for the better. I'm sorry you had to experience it like this. It's really hard to lose touch with someone who was apart of you. I got my feelings out by telling him how i truly felt about him and how we don't talk anymore, maybe try that? But never forget the memories you had, because at one point in time it did make it all worth while and made you happy. Sorry it was so long :/ I've never had anybody who related to me so much on a topic like this.
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You cant expect people to ever stay the same. People change. Make new friends. Forget him.
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OMG..!! how could you type as long questions
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This is all really, really immature. Just because a guy was your child hood friend doesn't mean he wants anything to do with you now, which it sounds like he doesn't. So you're going into 8th grade? You are still so young, you need to grow up and realize that you can't be worried about what a little boy is doing that you hardly know anymore. He has the "trash" on his top something? Well, if you hang with trash, YOU ARE TRASH. That is what he thinks is cool so that is what he chooses. I would move on!
6 :
Sorry hun. People change. It hurts, by you just have to learn to move on. I'm sure you will meet another great guy. :)
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Wow i'm sorry that that happened to you. I know how you feel because guys act like that with me too. They're hot and their cold, their yes and their no, their in and out, up and down. You catch my drift? Sounds to me like he's changed and probably has become arrogant because he's going to high school trying to be cocky. He could act like he's your bff today and diss you the next day. Don't let them get to you, boys act like that, but don't let it get the best of you. Perhaps calling him out on how he's acting, "why are you acting like you don't know me anymore?". Hope he stops acting like a jerk and starts being your friend again. If he continues to act this way, there's nothing wrong with letting him go and moving on. True friend would stick beside you to the end.
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That was one of the most boring-est thing ive read on here.
