i left sandiego california plus all of my friends, school church, to move to a butthole part of el paso texas with a woman who works 12- 15 hours a day ( she doesnt need to i am infdependently wealthy) and when she is off work she wants to do nothing. i sit around the house in the sweltering heat all day alone. she wont even go to church with me ( she is korean american) because her friends are at her church, they only speak korean at her congregation. i want us to go to church to spend time together but she refuses everything has to be her way. she has lived here for over 10 years and does not even know or want to discover the area, i feel she is really neglectful in the relationship, of course i pay the bills and do all the cleaning, am i an idiot?
Marriage & Divorce - 23 Answers
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1 :
yes.
2 :
Yes!
3 :
No. You're a dimwit
4 :
The very defenition dude. Move out of butthole texas where everything is backwards and move back to Sandiego where everything is amazing.
5 :
You are an idiot for staying around. Find someone who will at least ACT like they want to be with you.
6 :
Yes
7 :
If you are asking total strangers this question, I'd say you are not happy and want others to tell you to move on. Sounds to me like you need approval. So..OK...Here it goes: Move on. Go back home and start a new life. The fact you feel she is neglectful of the relationship is a huge red flag you cannot keep ignoring. Good luck.
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You're not an idiot you're just in love. Maybe you didn't realistically think about how well you two would be in the long run when weighing in her homebody nature and her busy work schedule. You should try to express your concerns and try to get her to compromise. You could ask her to just visit your church at least once to see if she likes it. However, if she isn't willing to help improve the relationship you may need to move on for your own happiness. Compatibility is very important. Good luck
9 :
yea
10 :
no you not a idiot you just love her but if u like going to church then u go dont miss ur blessing it seems like she not in love with u as u are with her because u have money to take care of her and u plus the rent then she should be at home with you doing things u like like church the movies have fun u only live once ya have to be happy together not just u ya pal shar if u need a friend emal me im here
11 :
Leave her! Find someone who wants to be with you.
12 :
my Friend two words for you.....tom lycus his 101 class will open you're eyes and yes you're and idiot no offense
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Can I ask u , What's it feel like to be treated as a doormat? Coz that's what's happening, u are being taken for granted....I hope she is worth all this unhappiness Hmmm??♥
14 :
More like pussy whipped.
15 :
If you stay yes. Unfortunately I think you made a major decision with your ****. You live and learn my friend.
16 :
Love doesn't make you miserable. If your best friend was in this situation and you could feel his pain, what would you tell him to do? Okay... ...now ask yourself why you think your friend deserves more than you do. Pack your bags, there are plenty of women hanging around the house wishing for a man who wants to spend time with them...I should know, lol. Go home, be happy.
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"Idiot" is a bit harsh. You just made a mistake. Some of the best advice I ever received from a teacher was to never move in with someone before engagement/marriage because if it doesn't work out, you feel stuck and unable to get out of a convienent relationship. It's obvious that it's not working out, so the best course of action would either be to break-up, move out, and get your own life for awhile. Or you can try to work it out by giving her an ultimatum: either she compromises more in order to save your relationship or it's over. It sounds like you have some serious issues to work out, but if you were willing to leave behind your home for her once, she might still be worth it.
18 :
Yep.
19 :
You said it ... I didn't Hey, she got you by the balls, as some would say. You are wasting your life. And she is Not worth it. It takes two to tango. Good luck ".."
20 :
La Jolla to El Cajon : Yes you're an Idiot to No, you're in love and there ain't no difference except the humidity. Get an xbox 360 and an air conditioner
21 :
I wont call you an idiot. I will say, that you are entirely too nice and allow her to do whatever she wants. there are TWO people in the relationshiop, not just her. She is supposed to do her best tomake you happy and vice versa... Talk to her, or split. Life's too short to be miserable!
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I saw what some of the others have said, you are missing the point. You need to move on, yes find someone who will give as much as they take. And would that be in KY LOL I'm kidding (no really KY is nice , Lou. real nice ) Ang
23 :
Yup, a big one.
